How can I calm my anxiety when I am around my boyfriend?
I had anxiety attacks daily about a year ago and now I am starting to get them again, but just when I am around him or think about him. We just started to date four days ago. Will I ever get over my anxiety? Until I do, what can I do to calm myself down?
July 21st, 2010 at 6:33 am
Seek help, I know it’s a cliche, but it seems as if you’ve got a problem with social anxiety.
With your boyfriend, you really shouldn’t be feeling so anxious. Is there a reason that his presence frightens you? I would think that one should feel most relaxed when with their significant other.
Then again, you’ve only been dating for four days, and he’s already your boyfriend? I think you need to slow things down a little! I wouldn’t honestly consider him your boyfriend just yet. But if you trust him, act normally towards him. If something is making you anxious, make sure that you tell him about it. That would be a great source of relief — and you could rest assured that he would not act in a certain way towards you which would provoke your anxiety attacks — if you trusted him, that is. I’m sure he’ll understand.
Anyway, you have to find out the cause of these anxiety attacks, and then “attack” (no pun intended) the source of these problems. It seems as if social situations trigger your attacks, so I would address that problem. Figure out why these attacks are taking place in these situations, then try to intellectually rationalize within yourself as to how you can handle the situation. For example, I used to be the same way — however, I have practiced being in social situations again and again…repeatedly. It stemmed from not trusting people in general (I’ve had a few bad experiences), now I know that human beings are generally more approachable than they seem.
Best of luck to you.
July 21st, 2010 at 7:29 am
well you should just calm yourself down i mean you already have the guy and you should know that he’s yours now so just say in your head he’s mine and nothing can happen know.