Relationships – does the way your parents treat you change how you interact with others?
Sorry if the title is a bit misleading but my question is this: Someone had told me the way your parents had treated you as a child largely figures into how you perceive and construct relationships with others. For example, you were figuratively smothered as a child and so you treat potential mates as such. Is this a case of pan psychology or is there some truth to this?
July 27th, 2010 at 3:17 pm
Absolutely. Parents and their behaviors/ treatment of a child affects how the child views the world and affects the child’s perceptions of “normal”, “healthy”, and “moral”.
July 27th, 2010 at 3:51 pm
That’s not true, in our house hold, there were no hugs, no kisses, no saying i love you.. now I’m always hugging other people, telling them i love you, i don’t go around kissing people, but that lets me know, you don’t have to do what your parents did, when u were a kid..
July 27th, 2010 at 4:49 pm
No it’s legitimate psychology. The basic idea is that there are four parenting styles each with its own results (on the children). However to go further in depth, people’s personalities are a result of genetics + environment. What you inherited from your parents + your lifetime experiences. Of your lifetime experiences, you are shaped and learn the most at an early age. At an early age, the most influential people in your lives are your parents. So everything your parents did to you, affected you in some way for the better or worse.
This is also why you see all these parenting magazines with articles on how to raise a child with high-self esteem or great interpersonal relationship skills.